What a life!

Friday 5 October 2018

Back in action

Here we go again!

It has been a whirlwind four years since the last post that I had put up in 2012. That year, among the many momentous milestones, one was a meeting with a friend and his friend - a former rally champion, who had partnered with the national football team captain. Their objective was to create a brand and messages that could save lives needlessly lost on the roads. Convinced that this would be an opportunity to not just re-engage with Oman, but truly make a difference by saving lives of people, I accepted the offer to create a startup.

What a journey it was. Two years of non-stop mega-humbling action. No mean task to begin from scratch and set up everything. From branding to the organisational structure to securing sponsorships and then some. 15 hour work days, dragging myself back home and crashing on the bed with the glint of a smile in the eye, thinking that somewhere out there amongst the myriad blacktops criss crossing Oman, somebody had heard what we had to say and had maybe thought just enough to make a minor change in their driving behaviour which led to many a life being saved.

By mid-2014, life as an ongoing set of constant adrenalin pumping challenges once again intervened in a manner, wherein moving to Dubai became an option that I just could not refuse. Next thing was working with a firm completely run by Indians. UAE, its work and spend culture which I had detailed many a time before (tourist, job-hunter, philosophy), still managed to surprise me in more ways than one. From moments of sheer bliss to absolute horrifying let-downs. I shall leave it at just this - it was an eye-opener in so many ways that even my words may not have the power to make the reader fathom the impact.

Circa 2018, I am back in India for good. Hope soars as a strategy and plan to get going with my own business which began as a seed has now begun to sprout. Now, am on the cusp of getting the business started, whilst another project in nearby Kochi, keeps me more than somewhat occupied. Somewhere in the midst of all this clamour for time, space, energy, familial duties, monetary concerns, and whatnot, which not so strangely, features rather strongly in the typical life of a middle class Indian, there was this yearning to pen the words that convey my feelings out to the world.

So here, we go again. Am truly looking forward to a better future for all of us. Let's engage, chat, debate, discuss, share and care.

Tuesday 24 June 2008

Human relations et. al.

This a response blog, because as I started writing a comment, I realised that it was just getting longer and longer, thought might as well make it a blog! I also would like to state outright that all of what I will write here on is debatable, so bring it on... the more the merrier ;)

Call it Hum Tum or the hot topic of relations that opposite or even same genders of the human species could have, especially of the 'love' variety.

There are a few points I would like to say here:

1. There are no absolutes in any relationship. To think so would be foolish.

2. Right or wrong, as said in Anila's blog (check the link) is from 'a' person's perspective. There is my truth. Your truth. And the truth... LOL

3. While I do not backtrack from what I'd written, I must admit that those were written during a state of emotional trauma (or shall we say, a steep learning curve...LOL), so are liable to be very subjective.

In one of the comments on Anila's blog, a friend asks why do guys flirt at all. Yet another says, a flirt is somebody who's not ready to be steady (excuse the pun). Some say that it is part of the male psyche...it is also hard wired into our genes. I feel, that all of us flirt - consciously or unconsciously. As someone had mentioned in one of the comments, both girls and guys do 'check' each other out. Sometimes, the chemistry/connect/vibes et. al. is so strong that the flirting can get deeper and move on to something much more like a relationship. But to me the basic point of flirting (no rose tinted glasses here) is to get to know a person that much more than what one would get to know otherwise.

Body language is as much part of flirting as are verbal expressions. Flirting can have various styles, standards and goals. And not all flirting is with the intent as deciphered by the receiver. Having said this my point on perceived truth versus the truth still remains.

Civilisation, education, societal evolution - these and many more factors have brought in various elements that 'condition' us to what is behaviourally acceptable or not. There are also certain deeper factors, which not all of us recognise all the time.

While I agree that trust is the basic principle of any relationship (especially between lovers - maybe because the link is based on purely voluntary reasons?), the moot point is what is the trust for? For example, would it be appropriate to say, "Because you are in a relationship with me, I trust you not to flirt with other men/women"? or would it be better to say, "I trust you to be open and honest with me on every count, including the flirting?" or would be better to say, "I trust you to be with only me, in this manner, and no one else?" or would it be best to say nothing at all?

One of the movies that I have recommended - What love is - a recent release is worth watching, as amongst themselves, it shows men talking about women and women talking about men and both have a lot to say on this whole flirting thing. Yet when they meet up, all those discussions taken on a completely different hue. Please do see it, if you can, and add a comment/response to this topic. I will be very happy to take up a discussion.

More on this tomorrow...